Self-Say

Most cultures on Marak observe a childhood rite that involves the declaration of a child's gender identity and the acceptance of the child as a member of the appropriate gendered community, though the exact nature of these rituals, the age at which they're performed and their specific significance vary from culture to culture as well as regionally.
For the To'es, this coming-of-age rite is usually performed at the age of eight and is celebrated in a semi-permanent manner involving only the family and close friends and relations of the child. It's format is usually that of a feast where some of the child's favorite foods are cooked, as well as certain traditional dishes. The child is also given presents by the adults in the family, usually ones related to the child's future work prospects or special skills.
An interesting aspect of the tradition is that the child is expected to be quiet until the main dish has already been eaten. At this point, the child demonstrates their chosen gender identity by uttering a formulaic phrase, conjugated in the appropriate gender, after which they are given their gifts and desert is served. This tradition has given the celebration it's name: the Self-Say, because the child declares who they are to their loved ones.
In some To'es communities, particularly in the Eastern parts of the continent, the Self-Say is performed at the beginning of the dinner, after which the child is invited to eat with any adults of their chosen gender and receive advice from them about their future. In some other areas, a similar variation is maintained where the adults of the same gender pay special attention to the child in the days just after the Self-Say, and advice them then. However, this advice part of the tradition is not as pervasive as the oral declaration of gender and the gift-giving.